I do remember one college party in like 2003 where as things wound down a guy was hitting on my girlfriend and honestly I think it would’ve been best and validating right then if she went home with him and maybe she would’ve if I wasn’t right there, and this was at the point when I and others were at least aware of polyamory but even among sex weirdos as a weirdo thing, and I wished we had talked it out before

Trying to put this across after the fact was awkward and I’m not sure how much the angles of it where she saw alignment in us were even the same where I did

(so meta-alignment I guess)