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18th November 2022

Post reblogged from A Never-Ending Tea Party with 112 notes

earlgraytay:

kontextmaschine:

So something I have realized is Roissy/PUA-style “game” does not work as a normative guide to how you, a man who does not get pussy, can get pussy, but it is a 100% accurate descriptive account of how the guys who do get pussy get pussy, and anxiety is the mediating factor

Without commenting too much on the feline acquisition abilities of anyone on this thread, and while freely admitting that all my knowledge of PUA “game~” tactics are secondhand… how do you figure?

because like, I’m aware that my experience with normie dating patterns is limited, but the people I know who have a lot of casual sexual partners get them by a) being a member of a community where having casual encounters is normal, b) regularly showing up to be a part of said community, and c) filling the needs of people within that community.

Which, yeah, can be as simple as “showing up at the same singles bar 3 nights a week, buying girls drinks, and being a decent conversationalist/not a blatant axe murderer”, or as complicated as “I am the only platypus furry with a fursuit in the tri-state area”.

from everything I’ve heard, the advice PUAs give is about as far from that as possible- it’s deliberately predatory tactics that, if it takes advantage of a community at all, does so in the most abusive manner possible. So not only is it advice that will not work for most people, it’s as far away from how most people who get casual sexual partners get them as it gets.

yeah and after that drinks and conversation do they ever say “oh gosh let me take you home for sex”? No, they don’t. Even if you get them to go to a second location you still have to do… a mysterious something… to, as the PUAs said, “convert”. And with the possibility of “oh haha that’s not the right thing, pathetic loser”. And apparently the new personality does that by instinct but doing it consciously with anxiety is a no-go.

Lately I’ve been thinking of anxiety as unresolved tension being unbearable, where “surrender” and “escalation” both count as resolution. Which means women being like “oh but if I reject a guy he might turn hostile and slag or beat me” yes, that’s anxious men choosing escalation

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    It's absolutely an issue of translation more than any lack of desire for taking the effort.
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  8. tuesdayisfordancing said: PUA stuff is a broad spectrum. Lots of it is predatory but also a decent chunk of does involve “show up, repeatedly” and “stand out in some way” the second of which does *sometimes* take the form of trying to identify Guy-with-a-platypus-fursuit as unfulfilled niche though generally not that adventurous.
  9. kontextmaschine reblogged this from earlgraytay and added:
    yeah and after that drinks and conversation do they ever say "oh gosh let me take you home for sex"? No, they don't....
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    ... Oh, but a certain kind of girl and woman gets a power trip or ego boost from a may-or-may-not-be-willing female...
  12. earlgraytay reblogged this from kontextmaschine and added:
    Without commenting too much on the feline acquisition abilities of anyone on this thread, and while freely admitting...