There is a voice in your head that wants you to prove that you're actually the smartest person in the room. That voice is the devil, and it will make you chronically unfuckable.
Chronic Debate Kid Brain causes ten trillion people to go unfucked every year, but with "being normal and not treating every disagreement like a competition" you too can get your pussy ate like a champ twice a day.
It’s easier on the defensive, you gotta figure out who had the reputation of smartest in the room already and lure them into attacking from a weak position.