Yeah that really comes down to what “desire” counts as. Like, would I do it? Did it fit with my conception of self? That’s why back then I used to think of myself as Kinsey 1-2 and was willing to trade blowjobs with a guy but the fact that I got nothing from it – less than pointing a vibrating showerhead on my dick cause then I could think about girls easier – was what made me reconsider, that made me notice how when I jerked off I never fantasized about guys. Now sometimes I do!