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Honestly I’m thinking about dogs in the western imaginary because I’ve been dogsitting for a week and change now. It’s been worthwhile. I’ve never had a dog before and this one’s a perfect starter dog.
I used to think all dogs were boys and all cats were girls, because my aunt had boy dogs and girl cats, and I had a girl cat growing up and my friend had a boy dog.
And I’m realizing I was onto something? Like, this dog is really a simplified model of how to relate to men (praise and approve and feed them to earn their loyalty but watch out if you always give in when they beg no matter how authentic it seems they’ll just learn to beg authentically), just like Nikki (RIP) was a model of how to relate to women (give tenderness, but withdraw sometimes, accept that they’ll withhold for no apparent reason and you should too otherwise they’ll own you)
The whole “game”, maaaaaybe slash MRA thing - I wonder how much that has to do with a generation of only kids/one of twos with a 2-3 year spread, growing up with a lack of older male role models. And I don’t mean just Strong Fathers In The House, but also elder brothers and cousins and uncles who’d buy you liquor and friends’ brothers and music scene mentors and workplace mates and all that. Because if I read my historical accounts right, that’s exactly what they’d do: teach you that women take a little teasing and a little being assertive but not so much that you’re a total jerk, you little shitface.
And instead we got Very Special Episodes about Just Being Yourself and jfc are screenwriters the wrong ones to take lessons from there. It was two years in LA when I finally realized that the trope of Wanting To Show Up Those Bitches Who Wouldn’t Have Sex With You In Tenth Grade wasn’t a metaphor.
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